Life is too short to worry about what others thing. What society thinks you should or should not be. Once you truly are comfortable with yourself, you become an unstoppable force. You become truly, fully alive.
Amazon is full of self-help books. I am no stranger to browsing this section on Amazon or at Barnes and Noble. In the day of social media it is hard to grasp the concept that many only share what they want you to see and that tends to be all the happy and glorious things in their life. While there are those who share the good and the bad, those can be harder to find. When someone does share the bad, you might find yourself questioning the authenticity of it. It is hard to not compare your life to these influences.
I have fallen victim to this in the past and it took a while to dig myself out of that. I had to stop and take the time to appreciate all that I had accomplished and my own path in life. And now, I am taking the steps to have the life I really want. All of the things that I have dreamed of. I want to experience life and be fully alive.
Social media does not define our happiness. We do.
I fully support Hips&Curves for their #BeFullyYou campaign. I think we all need to take the time to stop, breath, and disconnect from social media every once in a while. Recharge and reconnect with life, and remember, your life may not be as fascinating as theirs might seem, but it is your own life to do with as you see fit. If you want things to change in life, start asking yourself today “will this decision help move me forward towards my goal or backwards?”
What is one thing you are doing today to get yourself closer to your own personal goal of being fully alive?
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Robin Rue says
I am so sick of fat shaming or any kind of bullying like that. We are ALL beautiful and need to be comfortable with ourselves.
I’ve been dealing with it my whole life. My weight has gone up and down and up and down. I am just now getting to a point where I can tune it out and just be happy being me.
Sarah Bailey says
I think we almost see everything through rose tinted glasses as everything is very adapted before we see it and I have to admit I think that has a knock on effect on how we all feel.
Social media sure does not tell the whole truth! I try to keep it light on here, cause no one wants to hear my tears of a clown!
It is so important to focus on healthy not thin. I’ve been at the gym for 6 months. You can’t tell in my physique but I feel better about myself because I am healthy.
Catherine Sargent says
Stay focused and all of your dreams will come true. I just try to do what makes me happy and I don’t worry about what other people think. I have been changing my eating habits and I have been exercising a little.
Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle says
I LOVE this! I understand that being overweight is bad for my health. It’s just a scientific fact. That’s why I did something about it. But what I didn’t need was a bunch of people pointing it out to me all the time. I GOT IT. I don’t need it underlined and highlighted.
The same holds true for any other thing about myself that might be counter to my best interest or just something that I don’t like about myself. Step off and mind your own.
Lisa Favre says
I know a lot of my friends get down on themselves when they see others doing fun things/taking new steps in life and it’s all over social media. I tell them that everyone does things at their own pace and not to compare themselves to others so much!
I have never really connected or gotten much out of self help books. I find inspiration from the other people in my life.
Kelly Hutchinson says
This is something I have dealt with most of my life. My youngest daughter was also fat shamed and bullied in middle school. I think we are are beautiful and we should celebrate that.
I was bullied / fat shamed myself growing up. My weight went up and down because of it. Was a really hard thing to get over. I may not ever be 100% fully over it, but I have learned to accept myself as I am and I work towards being a stronger woman and not worry about the number on the scale.
It is so important to love who you are. We should celebrate our individual differences, not shame them.
valmg @ Mom Knows It All says
You are so right, social media doesn’t define us. Some people need to stop comparing themselves to others (half of whom are fake anyway) and just enjoy being themselves.
Annemarie LeBlanc says
Love this post! Beauty is not skin deep. There is a beautiful woman inside of us waiting to be acknowledged and recognized! Learning to accept our bodies will not only bring more confidence, it will also have a positive effect on the people around us.
I totally appreciate this post now that I have had a baby. My body has changed but I am learning that my body is strong and powerful and beautiful even though it is not at a place that I am fully loving it yet.
Toni | Boulder Locavore says
Such an amazing post! Loving yourself fully is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. Such a great reminder for moms and for every woman. 🙂
I think us woman are unnecessarily hard on ourselves. We really should try harder to embrace ourselves just the way we are.
Seattle Travel Blogger says
I think this is such a healthy post!
It is important for a woman to feel comfortable in her own skin.
With so many titles available, it must mean there’s a big market. I love that there’s such a committed focus to helping us all love ourselves. More of this please!
Our Family World says
I used to hate my body especially after giving birth. The only thing that zapped me out of that slump was when my husband told me that when it comes to looks, women are more critical of other women than the men are. Since then, I felt good about myself, stretch marks and all. 🙂
That really is the truth. I feel like all the advertising I saw growing up implanted it in my brain that I was supposed to look or act a certain way or no one would be attracted to me. It was really hard for me to get out of that mindset, but I did.
Louise Bishop says
Being positive and self-esteem is its own kind of healthy. It is hard most days for a lot of us. We stay strong though!
Adrianne Betz says
Outside of work, I try to stay away from social media. It can definitely be a culprit in making you lose your cool!
Sheena Tatum says
I love the focus of this! I definitely agree that life is what we make of it.
Shannon Gurnee says
I love this blog post! So often we compare ourselves to others, but really, we need to love ourselves first so we don’t worry as much what other people say. Thanks for sharing.
Amanda Love says
I love self help books because they allow people to truly love themselves and realize that they are worth more than they think. This book sounds amazing and it’s definitely going to empower a lot of women.